Controlling Anger

True strength isn't about winning fights or overpowering others. Real strength is being able to control yourself when you're angry.

Book 78: Chapter 14: Number 6114

Al-Bukhari, M. (2020) Sahih Al-Bukhari. Compiled by M. Mohee Uddin.

Anger is a natural emotion experienced by every human being. However, not all anger needs to be expressed. Often, a single uncontrolled outburst can damage relationships, hurt hearts, and leave long-lasting regret. This is why controlling anger is not a sign of weakness, but rather a demonstration of inner strength and emotional maturity.

Anger Can Disrupt Rational Decision-Making

Anger can affect how we make decisions and cause us to act impulsively (hastily without thinking things through).

Illustration of someone restraining anger as a symbol of strength and self-control.

Uncontrolled Anger Triggers Antisocial Behavior Uncontrolled anger can lead to antisocial behavior, such as domestic violence, child abuse, aggressive driving, and even murder.

Aggressive Behavior Can Emerge from Anger and Weak Self-Control Aggressive behavior stems from two factors: internal factors (quick temper, negative thinking patterns, poor self-control) and external factors (frustration, provocation, stress, rejection). These two factors influence how we assess situations and decide to react. The more often someone responds with anger or aggression, the easier it becomes for that behavior to resurface, eventually forming an aggressive habit that's difficult to change.

Emotional Characteristics Influence Social Judgments and ExpectationsSomeone who is emotionally stable, friendly, sociable, and capable of self-control tends to be viewed more positively and trusted as more competent by others, both in terms of abilities and social relationships.